5 Tips to Destress Your Holidays

Happy Holidays Everyone!

I hope that you have had a good year and feel that you had some really good things to celebrate. This year I have been celebrating, the Tame Your Time Community, A Taylored Space clients and event attendees. You are truly a highlight of my week. I look forward to your sharing and questions. Thank you!

We are in the last few days of 2018 and with the holiday season going strong I want to just do a little check-in.

How are you doing?

If your answer is not your best, here are some tips to help you destress the rest of your holidays.

1.Practice gratitude- This is a perspective shift. Be thankful for enough and expectantly thankful for what you need to decompress. And if you are saying these things you can’t be complaining at the same time. It’s almost a Jedi mind trick!

2.Limit contact with taxing and toxic people- Yes. This all about maintaining sanity. Your physical and mental wellness are a large factor in your ability to thrive through the holidays. Keeping your stress sources down means there is less chance that you will blow up or break down.

3.Increase reflection & quiet time- This is especially helpful if you are an introvert but really can apply to anyone. If you just need some time away to be with yourself and quiet don’t feel guilty for that. In that quiet time there is power to refocus and gain clarity on what you need and want.

4.Reconnect to what supports you- Keep close the people, places and things that have a positive influence and give you what you need to make the day work. And only you really know these answers so write them out and then go seek them out to include in your holiday.

5.Have some real fun. Not the stuff you go to just because someone invited you. Genuinely Smiling, laughing, engaging with others, doing your high valued things all helps to release positive those feelings can carry over into your attitude through the day and week. It’s kind of like high intensity training right if you can help yourself to a good dose of fun it supports you hours after the laughter stops.

6.Plan your time- Ok I had to throw this in as a bonus. 🙂 But really this is about making sure you can look at the page or screen and see the white space. Don’t cram your day full of any and everything. Leave a little room to breathe. Also if you know what’s next it allows you to proceed without anxiety or guilt- two top emotions that come up when clients say they are overwhelmed and stressed out.

The holidays are intended to be a time of positivity, reflection, family and beliefs. We have stuffed them full of food, shopping, tv and stress. Wouldn’t you say it’s time to make a change? Use these tips to get back that happy holiday spirit.

I also have an announcement: I am hosting the Get Stuff Done Challenge in January. We’ll share 5 days of action to get your new year off to a productive start so you can get lots of good stuff done in 2019! There will be lots of powerful learning, prizes and maybe even a couple of surprises.  I would love for you to join me and bring a friend who wants a fresh start on the New Year.
Watch for more details soon.

Happy rest of your holidays and I’ll see you in January.
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5 Things My Mom Taught Me About Organizing and Productivity

Depositphotos_25892317_l-2015 thanksmomHappy Mother’s Day to all of you wonderfully inspiring moms!

You remember those sayings, demands, chores, urgings and advisories from mom?! You know those things that it took you almost a lifetime to realize where actually life lessons and values intended to make you the best person ever. I’ve lived a little and thought it would be fun idea for this holiday to reflect on what my mom taught me.  When thinking about specifics to include for this article I texted my mom and asked “what did you try to teach us that connects to this topic”?  Her responses are the first 2 🙂

1. Have a place for stuff and put it there…

Yes this one often received an “uh Mooooom” or blank stare but it is absolutely true. Defining where things belong helps you find them and return them much easier and faster.   This is especially applicable with multi-user spaces.

2. Finish what you start; Keep the commitment you signed up for. If you don’t like it you don’t have to do it again but get through the process.

Okay. I have become much more of a big picture person that in the past but realizing that the planning and follow through required after making a decision were so important to my learning and sense of achievement.

A productivity point that also comes to mind is doing the hard things first. If we can get past the activities that seem so big, we gain a huge boost of confidence.  Then what comes after is much easier to complete.

3. Clean your room.

In organizing this is one of the most common challenges people face- maintaining the order that is established. Did it seem like you heard this every day too?  It’s interesting that this now makes me think about organizing space styles.  My definition of clean was not necessarily the same as hers.  Now we have tools like the Time and Space Style Inventory (link to page) to find out what makes sense for the user of the space.  With that knowledge we can help the systems and the maintenance routine match the person.

And yes I do make my bed every day now.

4. Be happy with what you have.

You couldn’t control what anyone else had- As a kid not even what you had. But you could control how you looked at it. Gratitude  and perspective are much more openly discussed today than they were in the past.  We also practice more consumption and comparison today.  We want the latest and greatest that our friend has without much regard for what we really need. If we can take a step back to a simpler definition of life and happiness, it will have an impact on the volume of unused things we have around us.

5. Come back before the street lights come on.

As a military kid there was a layer of protection around the community that afforded us some freedom of movement. So at times I could stay out later but she always had to know where I was.  The street lights just served as a boundary on my behavior and strategy to plan her time.  She clearly stated the expectation and there were consequences when I overstepped.  This boundary allowed her to continue managing the household without overextending wondering where I was or when I’d be back.  What boundaries do you set for yourself and others? Are you able to balance time for play, self care, and readiness for the upcoming day? Do you instill confidence and trust through your behavior? When a situation arises that is beyond your boundary how do you recover?

These may seem like very simple examples yet in each there is a lesson that I didn’t realize I was getting at the time. As I look at the person I have become and the work that I do,  it’s so easy to identify the organizing and productivity tips mom shared all throughout my life. 

What did you learn from your mom? How is it showing up in your life today? Share with a comment below.

Happy Organizing!

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Change One Thing

Sometimes it seems like nothing works the way it should. If you’re a human, you have probably hit that point where work is no fun, relationship is a struggle and you don’t even feel comfortable in your body.

At times like these, changing your life can seem overwhelming. There’s so much to do…where do you even start?

It’s really quite simple… just change ONE thing.

Read a magazine article you would not typically even consider. Try a new clothing combination. Take a different route to work. Any simple change of scenery can shift your perspective, and has the potential to drastically transform your life.

It’s like a ship at sea…if it changes course even one degree, 100 miles later it’s in completely new waters.

Of course, the most profound shifts are the ones you make on the inside. Annoyance can easily be turned into fascination. Frustration can be flipped to become gratitude. Even anger can be transformed if you simply turn it into a song.

You don’t have to tackle your whole life at once, just make one simple shift.

And the best part is…it’s all experimentation. If you don’t like your new perspective, you can always go back to your old one.

What “one-degree” shift can YOU make TODAY?

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