3 Ways to Trust Yourself Again


trust jumpWhile working with a client this week she said “I wish I could work with you every day”.  I smiled as she clearly meant it as a compliment to what I helped her accomplish.  We had just finished working on building her first packing list for an upcoming extended trip.  She was finally feeling the pressure of last minute packing fading away.  I was excited for her and at the same time curious about her comment.  I believe our relationship is such that she values my expertise and trusts I am supporting her just as she needs it.  Still I wondered “is she learning to trust herself through our work together?”  And if not how can I help her regain that trust?

It happens to us all.  As we change our priorities, learn something new, have to change or do something differently, we may no longer feel in complete control. Though we have the courage to start we may not know how to keep going.  We don’t trust ourselves to sit in that uncomfortable moment alone.  I reassured my client that she in a good place and gave her 3 pieces of advice to regain her own trust.

1. Keep practicing

Those who are most proficient at their profession, hobby, sport or happiness use their skills often.  If you don’t have them ask get help from someone willing to teach you.  Practice breeds confidence.  Confidence renews courage that can power you to try again.  You will get better with practice.  

2. Look for the learning

Don’t get stuck on what didn’t go well.  Instead, look for the a-ha moments in your organizing experiences and ask yourself what did I learn.  You can find out about yourself, your abilities, your drivers for moving forward.  Imagine what you will be able to do next?

3. Celebrate your success 

As you are more aware of those learnings and see the positive results, celebrate.  Be inspired by the things that you do know and appreciate the person you are becoming– someone you can trust to help with your organizing needs.        

The tension that comes with learning new skills and then trusting yourself to use them takes some time to ease.  That time can be well spent in practicing the very thing that unsettles you. While working the process you learn by doing, recognize success and relearn how to trust yourself. 

How have you learned to trust yourself recently?  Post a comment below!


Start Again Now: Use the Second New Year to Recommitment and Take Action

carl bard_new start 9-2-14I recently heard a radio show host say he considered September 1 to be the second new year…  I hadn’t heard it expressed that way before.  Yes! September does begin a time of change and transition in nature and family schedules but when I thought about it a little more it made sense to use this time to recommit and take action the same way we do in January.

 Have you ever wanted to just erase that failed attempt at getting organized or take back the time spent on lesser tasks that kept you from spending time with your family?  I can’t give you a time travel portal but I can share with you 3 quick reasons to take action now:

 You’re likely already making changes

With the 1st of September comes the season of change.  Some areas are seeing the first signs of fall and may be transitioning their wardrobes.  Some people are experiencing life changes of school starting and schedules readjusting to more active busy lifestyle. Why not  optimize the family calendar and set up some boundaries.  Didn’t quite hit the goal on that hottie beach body? Now may be time for some coaching to increase focus and keep you from gaining weight.

 There’s a good amount of time left in the year

Starting a new habit or reclaiming an unruly space now would give you 90-120 days to execute your plan and experience success.   Also you don’t have to go all the way back to a castoff new year’s resolution just start by focusing on what you have learned from it that can help you move forward and feel like this year you’ve had some positive results that you can sustain over time.

 One small success can bolster confidence to do more

You know how it feels when you’re making things happen and loving life?!  You’re super confident and will try something completely new feeling you can’t lose. Success shakes off fear and dependency  replacing them with optimism and self-reliance.  Yeah it’s kind of deep but it’s true.  Have more positive experiences, you can change your mind and environment!

I hope you’re looking at this month as an opportunity to do something positive to improve your space and time use.  The biggest challenge is making the first step and deciding to take action.

So, what are you going to start this month?