She Thanked the Clock

 

Box of unwanted stuff close upFinishing up a recent appointment, an interesting thing happened.  As I packed my truck with donations, the homeowner came over and added in an old clock.  Then she said “Thank you clock.  I’m going to miss the chiming you did for me. I can let you go now.” 

Whoa! 

I stand by the viewpoint that our things serve a purpose.  Whether tool, toy or treasure things are in our life for specific reasons. On an ongoing basis if we treat them well they will do just what we intended for them to.  Then when their task is done, they are used up, or we have changed our minds about them, we should be able to let them go.  In reality that doesn’t always happen for many reasons including:  we value the things we spend money on, we connect them to our relationships with people, we feel if they are useful they can be tolerated taking up extra space and others.

I love that she was able to initiate her own way of letting go. We talked about the clock being something she remembers for many years in the home.  It was a gift from a family member.  It hadn’t been used recently and didn’t really have a place because it was replaced with other clocks she likes now. Yet it was still in the maybe area. For some other items we had to think of ways to help her facilitate letting go of items.  I want that to go to my friend. I want to get some money for this so it needs to be sold. I want a picture of that piece…  In this case she decided on her own that it was okay that the clock had done it’s job and that was enough.  So she brought it to me and she thanked the clock.

I smiled at my client and told her I appreciated her expression of gratitude for the clock.  I would take it to the place of her choosing and someone else will enjoy it like she did. She said I know it’s silly but that’s what I needed to do to let it go. 

It wasn’t silly.  It was awesome and I wished more people could do it so simply. That experience was a great way to end the day.  I left excited about the project and what my client was learning about her ability to work through the organizing process.  I just had to share!

What about you?

Have you ever had the experience of thanking an item as a way to help you let it leave your space? Share in the comments.

Happy organizing!

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New Year, New View

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We spend a great deal of time around New Year’s Day thinking about all of the things we want to achieve, do (redo :)) and become.  These resolutions and goals get a lot of energy and they enchant us because they are shiny and new.  Often we reach for that something better but quickly become stuck and lose momentum.  One of the reasons for this is because there is a tug of war on the inside- past versus positive present and future.  Imagine you are trying to take a step forward, big or small, and having something holding your leg.  That restrictive force is an emotion or perspective from your past.

So in 2106 should old acquaintance be forgot?  In this case I say YES.  This year before you proclaim another goal or resolution, I invite you to have a new view on where it starts.  Shake yourself loose and let go!

 Here’s a list of 4 things to let go of this year.

1. Fear that you can’t do or don’t know how. You have learned so much over the years. From early on there were life-changing situations you survived (walking and talking surely changed my life what about you :)).  They were scary and had some setbacks but through those experiences you learned how along the way.  I have confidence that you can be successful in other future endeavors as well.

2. Thinking it’s all or nothing.  This is hard perspective to see through. There is a lot of life that happens in between the extremes.  The world moves so fast that often the Pareto Principle of 20% of your best effort yielding 80% of result holds extra firm.  Defining the result, setting smaller milestones and celebrating your accomplishments can help you work through this. 

3. Feeling there’s a right or wrong way.  Consider ending the practice of comparing your way to anyone else’s way.  You are the expert on you.  When things are working for you, you can feel it and when your life is in order it’s much easier to see it.

4. Thinking more is always more. Give yourself a break because you will reach a point of diminishing return.  Finding your sweet spot may mean that doing and having less brings you more satisfaction.  Simplifying your life and environment with clarity and an end in mind allows you to experience your perfect amount of fulfillment.  

I love that organizing and coaching can help address all of these.  In the process we talk about what you really want, how you want your life to be, how you want your space to work for you, the fact that organizing skills are learnable life skills and that there’s a right amount of stuff and to-dos to make your life work.

Isn’t that what it’s all about– living a good life and enjoying what you have when you want to.

What do you want for yourself in 2016?  What can you let go of today to help you get what you want?  Post a comment to share.

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